After watching Benny Blanco and Selena Gomez on Jay Shetty’s On Purpose podcast, one thing is clear: this man is a walking masterclass on how to be a supportive partner. Men, take notes. Ladies, this is what healthy, real love looks like.
Now, writing about a celebrity’s relationship can feel weird—after all, we never really know them. But once in a while, a relationship exudes so much stability, joy, and emotional maturity that it needs to be talked about. Because in a world overflowing with Andrew Tates, crypto bros, and men who think bare minimum effort is peak romance, Benny Blanco is a revelation.
Benny Blanco: The Anti-Andrew of the World
Benny is Noah Roklov (aka Adam Brody in Nobody Wants This) in real life—the kind of guy who isn’t trying to win an argument with his partner because, in his own words, “who’s winning? Your partner is crying and resents you, how have you won?” Instead of trying to be right, he’s flying in Selena’s favourite burger and worshipping the ground she walks on.
Compare this to the Euphoria boys—Nate Jacobs energy, where relationships feel like psychological warfare. Or The White Lotus, Season 3: Chelsea (Aimee Lou Wood) tells Chloe (Charlotte Le Bon) that her boyfriend is like her child, and Chloe replies, “He’s 50.” The emotional labor! The exhaustion! But with Benny? He’s actually self-aware.
A Soft-Boy Renaissance
Benny talks about love the way most men talk about cars—with delight, obsession, and zero shame. He literally worked with his therapist to list out the qualities he wanted in a future partner before he even met Selena. A man with a dating strategy that isn’t just “vibes”? Groundbreaking. “When you start dating someone, you’re not only dating them, you’re also dating every single person they’ve ever dated… You’re getting every piece of baggage that person’s had. With partners, parents, this that. I had to find a way to build that trust with her.” explains Blanco.
And unlike the guys who think “I’m just not good at texting” is a get-out-of-effort-free card, he actually communicates and doesn’t villainize her needs: “I am aware of her strengths and her weaknesses. What I do is try and surround her with a lot of things to help her. But if I am going to this next thing, or a party or an event, it is just me reaching out with a simple text to say, ‘Hey babe, I am thinking about you.’ She just wants to talk to me before she goes to sleep, or she needs me to express my love to her.”
Imagine someone telling you that reassurance isn’t “too much”—it’s the bare minimum. Doesn’t this remind you of Noah’s “Because Joanne, I’m On Your Side. I Can Handle You” moment?
Why the World Needs More Benny Blancos
Dating today often feels like stepping into the Twilight Zone—half the men think emotional intelligence is a scam, and the other half think “wyd” is a personality. But Benny? He’s proof that the Soft Boy Renaissance is here. And honestly? The internet agrees.